From a Distance

Why do we hold on to the notion that we have to spend a lot of time with someone to be close to them? I like my alone time. I like to have time to think and process. I need to have space and room to breathe and move about. I need to have time with strangers too. Just time with people I do not know who I can react to in an honest way without putting too much thought into it. I want to get to know myself that way. I want to know my prejudices and my real thoughts. I want to know what effects me and what doesn’t. And when it comes to my closest friends and family, my soul mate and my kindred spirits, I'd rather have small memorable moments than long stretches of time with them. I like to "miss" people. I love the feeling of yearning for someone or something (food, lol). And I love the moment when it comes back to me. And I love the way it makes me appreciate the goodbye moment. Distance is not for the weak, the fearful or the anxious. It’s not for those of little faith. It’s for the bold and the attentive and the audacious. It’s for the ones who can hold on to the truth indefinitely without getting discouraged. It’s for those who can treasure a goodbye as much as an embrace. It’s for the ones who love fiercely and exponentially in small increments of time. It’s for those who live for moments saturated with honesty and openness and love and not just for measurable time spent with one another. To converse with a friend while standing in the aisle at the grocery store can be as powerful and memorable a moment as any. To have coffee with a loved one you haven’t seen in years can fill your entire empty world up in 20 minutes. Stop wasting so much time spending time. Time runs out. Moments are endless.