What Matters Most...Living and Dying

There is a book that I would recommend called The Four Things That Matter Most. I was going to write about it more in depth today but I'm much too tired to do it justice. The stories in the book are drawn from end-of-life situations but really it is about living and relationships.

Even the most healthy relationships are flawed. I wish for anyone reading this to be aware of opportunities given them to forgive, love, appreciate and nurture relationships. I think many of us are stuck not knowing how to do those things or how to ask for what we need from people. I hope that you learn to complete your relationships. They don't have to be ending for you to make them whole and to not leave things unsaid.

I've not yet figured this out for my own life. Always learning this stuff. I guess many things do not come naturally to me and take effort to find the words, especially towards certain people.

The book says that what matters most are being able to complete your relationships by having discussions around these statements:

Will you please forgive me?
I forgive you.
Thank you.
I love you.

And lastly, being able to say Goodbye is very important when someone is dying or leaving or a relationship is ending.

I've tried really hard to say what matters. Part of me wants to write the authors and tell them they suck because many times it gets me nowhere. But I know that if I never understand why it mattered, that it still must. I can hope anyway. I hope my relationship with most people wasn't for nothing.